Elements to Making a Meaningful Life Makeover! 3 of 5

 

Self-care of our physical bodies is important.  When we care for ourselves we are able to care for others or learn to care for ourselves better.  In order to have our best to give to ourselves, our friends and families, our careers or our job search there are a few things we need to consider in order to make a physical makeover successful.

Rest, diet and exercise play a huge role in our physical well being.

Our bodies need fuel.  Just like our cars.  If we put bad fuel in, it sputters and does not perform to its potential.  When we follow the suggested preventive care program recommended by the manufacturer, the life-span of the car’s usefulness greatly increases and we usually experience fewer mechanical issues.  Our bodies are a lot like cars in the sense that with proper preventive care we too can usually experience fewer interruptions in our lives due to poor physical health.

A few controllable elements of our health include: developing good sleep habits and routines (sometimes called sleep hygiene), fueling our cells with nutritious foods and plenty of water as well as moderate exercise.

When we compare our bodies to machines we can begin to understand that we have to take care of our equipment by putting the right fuel in it and maintaining the moving parts, we don’t have to replace it.  As our bodies age, we do have to accept some things as inevitable – some stuff wears out but that process of decay can be slowed by doing some  simple things include taking a daily vitamin, eating foods high in nutrients to fuel our bodies at a cellular level.

Putting a car in the garage and never driving it would be considered bad for the car as the fluids and lubricants settle there are numerous things that an idle car can develop from sediments in gas lines to faulty electrical connections.  Why would we not think our bodies are similar?  Moderate exercise can be good for you.  Walking 30 minutes a day, briskly if you are able, is great for your whole body…including your mind.  It works muscles, joints, lungs and heart and it activates a chemical called endorphins.  Science has much to say about this little “feel good” chemical and endorphins are the body’s natural pain relievers. They act like opiates to reduce pain and bring about a feeling of euphoria and well-being. Combine this positive effect with our efforts of eating more nutritious foods and getting plenty of rest and we will begin to really see and feel a difference in some cases in as little as a week we can begin to feel better…have more energy naturally.  For some it may take a bit longer but making it a lifestyle change and not just the new program of the day will do a long way to ensuring sustainable, on-going benefits of better health for ourselves.

Having a regular sleep routine and good “sleep hygiene” is great for stress relief too.  Removing obstacle to getting enough good sleep and preparing for sleep is important also. Our nighttime chemical that helps us sleep and rejuvenate our minds an bodies is called Melatonin. Melatonin also has antioxidant properties, and may have an important anti-aging role. Too much sleep is not good for you so look into getting a good sleep ritual and what the meaning of sleep hygiene is for you.

These positive things we do for ourselves reinforce our appreciation for our physical body’s capabilities and for attention to our  own needs. Performing self-care proves we can meet our own needs.  There is confidence to be gained in these actions as we continue to care for ourselves, we can begin to do a better job in our care of others when needed as well.

When we are well rested, feeling good, putting good fuel into our bodies, it increases our ability to adapt to stress in our lives.  It will be easier now to handle obligations for ourselves, our families and friends as well as respond with the appropriate amount of urgency during situations that arise.  Our work will be more productive and our search for a career or answers to our current problems may be easier to handle with a clearer head due to proper diet, exercise and rest.

How would you being a physical makeover?  Would you be able to commit to your own self-care today?  Have you examined areas where you might need to apply better self-care?  Do you think that if you were eating better foods, exercising and getting better rest you would be better equipped to handle stress during your day as you work or seek work?

 

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Elements to Making a Meaningful Life Makeover! 2 of 5

This is probably the more challenging of all makeovers. Make no assumptions about this post. This is about the essence of what makes us authentically who we are at our core, our spirit. This isn’t your typical preachy spiritual makeover blog post, full of “my God is better than your God” or “your God must look and sound like my God” talk.

No, this post examines the possibility that, when we face seemingly fruitless efforts to find work, increased stress, paralyzing fear, worry about not meeting the ever-mounting obligations of our lives, it may get to be too much to handle alone. Looking outside of ourselves for answers – seeking meaning, guidance and help from a higher power (or a power greater than yourself) is not easy. It’s natural to rely on oneself, believing that we can fix everything if only we work harder and that our responsibility to manage our life is solely our burden alone. In this belief of self-sufficiency, we can often find ourselves condemning our efforts, which depletes our spirits and diminishes our essence.

I recently made the acquaintance of a woman who for over 50 years had not observed any higher power in her life. Her Type A personality and incredible abilities at interpreting the law had enabled this person to enjoy a highly successful career. As an outsider looking in, she was very capable, optimistic, positive and disciplined. As a mother, her personal goal was to always be her very best self, and she met this goal with a reserve of energy every single day to make each day the best it could be for herself and those she came into contact with. All these efforts served her, her closest friends and her family very well until a serious, life-threatening illness touched someone close to her. This was something that her capabilities, confidence, logic, careful attention to detail and her intellect could overcome.

No matter what she intellectualized, how she applied herself to the task of “fixing,” NOTHING she could do would change the outcome. She confided feelings of despair and helplessness as she came to accept that it was not in her direct power to influence any outcome she desired. For high achievers, this is a scary and unfamiliar feeling, to be sure!

This brought her to a place where, as a seeker of truth and answers to solve her loved one’s illness, she was able to admit she was powerless over the situation and that energy she was putting into obsessing over the problem, attempting to rationalize the irrational, was making other aspects of her personal and professional lives very unmanageable.

To those of you who think reliance on a higher power seems like a crutch for those who cannot or will not take control of their own lives, I ask that you consider what you will do when the resources and capabilities you possess have reached the end of your self-reliance rope? Would you then be able to consider the possibility that a power GREATER THAN YOURSELF (whether a collective group of people like you sharing in a common cause, a universal being or anything in between) may be the source of a strength previously not known to you. It has been more truth than fiction that others, upon being completely depleted, demoralized and feeling defeated, have gained a strength from this greater collective power, a kind of positive energy flow that seemed to help them to pick up and try once more.

Are you too intellectual for a higher power? I don’t think so.

Last week, on a trip to Miami, while sitting in a Barnes & Nobles, I met a Ph.D. research organic chemist and medicinal chemistry professional. He had been looking for work more than three years. Do you think he was completely demoralized? No. Not completely.  I tell you he was feeling discouraged, but not defeated.

Imagine if you will, the sum total of years of his life that he committed to the pursuit of knowledge and his curriculum vitae was marked by positions within groundbreaking organizations changing the face of medicine today.

When I asked him how he remained so optimistic after a three-year job search he surprisingly stated the following:

“I believe a higher power – greater than myself – is making a way for me. I do my part to stave off fear of not finding work before my savings runs out by continuing to be an active learner so my head is full of relevant knowledge and I continue pursuing opportunities to work for companies where I believe I can do the most good.”

This realization came to me as he and I spoke:

1. There are some for whom their previously held beliefs about their higher power have come come into question – doubt of the existence of an all-knowing, all-powerful is waning during times of continued struggle;

2. Some may have a spiritual awareness, but have lost their conscious contact with their higher power, and upon finding obstacles too much to manage, know they will regain their familiarity with this power and trust that things will turn out alright in the end;

3. Some have never observed a higher power (such as my new acquaintance) but have recently come to find that with nowhere else to turn, and logic failing, this concept of a higher power becomes one of possibility instead of “im-possibility”

I want to impress upon you that joblessness, worry, fear, hopelessness and despair don’t respect any intellect, race or spirituality. It is my experience that it’s more difficult for highly intellectualized, even scientific people such as I have mentioned, to believe that such complexities of life as cancer or joblessness can be relegated to a concept as simple as trust or faith in a higher power to work out the situation. Which is probably why I was surprised that as a member of the “intellectual elite,” the Ph.D. still considered his conscious connection with his higher power an important element of his ongoing career search as the successful lawyer had in her acceptance of the illness of her loved one.

I do not want to force this subject of considering a spiritual makeover as part of your very personal makeover; I simply put it forward to you as a concept that has served others, including myself, and I thought it important enough to bring to your awareness. Spiritual makeovers, pursuing a conscious connection with a power greater than yourself, is not an overnight event, though I am sure it has happened for some in the darkest hours in their lives.

It does NOT have to conform to anyone else’s particular view of a higher power (whom I call God) but as far as I can tell, it’s a common thread within humanity. This idea that we are more than flesh, bone and cells all neatly put together into our unique shells, that there may well be a part of us that burns within, fires up – if you will – to provide strength and guidance in times of woe or uncertainty. To this part of each of us (which I refer to as spirit), give more than a cursory nod and try making over or refreshing your spirit with a little tender love and care by getting quiet, possibly meditating or finding a group with a common purpose you can meet with, to gain insight into the inner spirit of what makes YOU uniquely YOU!

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Elements to Making a Meaningful Life Makeover! 1 of 5

Sick and tired of being sick and tired? Maybe you could consider a make-over! I’m not suggesting a superficial temporary hair color, new wardrobe or another  accessory. No. The make-over I am suggesting is the life altering, personal kind. The five elements I want to touch on are: professional, spiritual, physical, mental and emotional. I’m going to provide one element in each of my subsequent posts … keep coming back!

Do you need a Professional makeover?

Are you happy doing what you do each and every day? Is it meaningful and worthwhile to YOU? Is it vital or just a means to an end? If you’re not doing what you’re passionate about in some aspect of your professional life, whether it’s your core career, volunteer activities or paid moonlighting work (testing the waters), you really need to stop and have some serious conversations with yourself about the toll that your current work is taking on other aspects of your life.

Unfortunately, even if we try to compartmentalize our lives, there is an overflow – even if it’s subconscious, and it will steal happiness, fulfillment and enjoyment from other aspects of your life. Make a determined, deliberate and courageous move  toward achieving your professional goal(s). No worthwhile goal followed by the appropriate amount of effort and a plan to achieve it, can fail.

Earl Nightingale  said it best: “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.”

At the risk of sounding trite … if your “perfect” job exists, and you’re qualified for it – GO FOR IT! Go all the way – GO ALL IN!

If you’re not qualified for it and you have the capacity to learn the needed and necessary skills, go back to school, become an intern or find a mentor!

If the career doesn’t exist, but there’s a need for it, CREATE IT! Entrepreneurs are born every single day!

You’re the only person between you and your dreams. It isn’t your spouse or your current job or your bills … IT IS YOU!

Don’t be fooled into believing you’re in a “no-win” situation. There are probably other choices you have today, but you can only see ONE – that means you will remain stuck in A DEAD END JOB! If this is you, step away and ask a really honest friend or a mentor/coach for perspective. Take a few skills assessments or personality tests, get a career coach. … Do something SOON! Don’t wait till the timing is right. It will never be just the “right” time, and you’ll talk yourself out of every personal dream in your professional life. Your dreams are worth pursuing. And, if you should fail, as many of us have throughout our lives at one point or another, may you fail with the knowledge that you went for it! You chose actively, not passively to be pouring effort into a “worthy ideal” as Mr. Nightingale would say.

Also, I’ll let you in on a little secret: If you fail, it will teach you something valuable that you can use when you try again! And you’ll find this is the secret of a professional makeover. Ceasing to let fear or worry stand in the way of your dreams for your professional life will provide a sense of purpose, passion and direction that will make it impossible to fail at your professional makeover!

Have you ever considered a professional makeover? Does the idea of making over your professional career excite you or vapor-lock you in fear?  What ideas do you have for those who can’t seem to move past the fear and into the attainment of their “worthy ideal” career?

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Is There Such A Thing As A Secret Job Search On LinkedIn?

 

 

Many currently employed people are beginning job searches and keeping it hidden from their employer even while usingsocial media outlets like LinkedIn. Keeping a job search secret takes a little insider knowledge, skill and a tiny bit of luck. Luck, I can’t help you with – but I do have a few tips and tricks to help you keep your job search off the radar for a while – you sure don’t want to announce it to your current employer until you’ve made a decision. Do these things at home on your own computer.

It is a lot easier than you think to work on a profile optimization within LinkedIn without triggering an avalanche of questions about why you are “tweaking” your profile.

Step one: Click on your name in the top right hand corner of your linked in profile.
Step two: Click on Settings
Step three: Locate the PRIVACY CONTROLS and here you can select and change the activity broadcasts
Step four: Click on “Turn on/off your activity broadcasts” Uncheck the box next to “Let people know when you change your profile, make recommendations, or follow companies” and click save. *Remember: repeat this action and check the box again and save again. This means that now your profile is viewable and though it kept a red flag from being raised, occasional audits of your profile should reveal you are happy in your present role and promoting company approved content as well. Every recruiter likes a company promoting person!
Step Five: Dan Sherman – LinkedIn Expert, advises the use of the 160 characters to update your headline in a thoughtful way to draw the right kind of attention to your profile. Using good keywords about you AND your company can be useful. Be cautious not to be too blatant about self-promotion however, use relevant keywords about what your job FUNCTION is at your current company.

A great example might be something like:

Business Development Manager at Acme Global Group | Marketing, Social
Media Management | America’s, EMEA & APAC.

Step Six: In your summary section, add the text: ABOUT YOUR NAME: put your current job responsibilities based on the job description you received upon hire in a bulleted format. Beneath that, and still in the Summary section, add the text: ABOUT ACME GLOBAL GROUP: put your company’s approved about us content here. *You can format this best in a word processing document like Word with bullets and copy and paste it into your Summary section.

Additional considerations: Adding your company brochures, slide shares and other pertinent content is a good thing to consider doing to optimize your profile and minimize your exposure to appearing a job seeker.

What are some other ideas for job seekers to help keep their job seeking covert until they decide to accept another career opportunity?

 

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Aging Workforce – Out to Pasture or Back to Work?

Recently I had the pleasure of sharing time with my Sorority Alumnae group to celebrate the holiday season.  A quick glance around the room confirmed I was the youngest in years (at ~40) compared to the other ladies in the room, however, it was immediately clear that I was not the most youthful nor even the most energetic.  Throughout the day, these ladies revealed to one another their current traveling plans, reminded one another of their shared committee meetings in other organizations and in the next breath -  set aside time to network and welcome the newcomer to the group.

Is it surprising that they all have e-mail, are on Facebook, volunteer regularly to an unwed mothers’ organization or are some of the most efficient travel planners around?  It may surprise you to learn that several are in their early seventies and actively learning Social Media Management as a means of making a little extra income working from home part-time because as they put it “Social Media doesn’t care what your age is!”

I began thinking about their life experiences, the integrity and maturity of these women and what a filter-changing experience this was for me.  They are right! Within Facebook there are groups like: Ageless Media Network that promote the concept of continuing to work as long as YOU want to and not just until society says you “should” stop.  For many, work ethic means “doing meaningful work” and that is exactly what Social Media allows you to do today.  Among the most popular, growing and needed, there is an increase in Social Media where traditional “Marketing” jobs have flat-lined.

Many investment portfolios have tanked or the social security, fixed-income is no longer sufficient.  What are seniors to do?  Draft a résumé and go back out to the workforce in their last field of endeavor?

With age comes wisdom, experience and vast expertise. So, why is it difficult for this age group (Baby Boomers and beyond) to find meaningful work that utilizes their skill-sets and potential?

Is there a predetermined age we should just give up on being hired? On being a meaningful contributor to the bottom line profitability of a company?  On earning a living to take care of ourselves in the fashion we want?

It should shake up everyone to know that one client of mine, a  72 year old, past-VP of Sales is looking to go back to work while his son, who is a 40-something, unemployed father of 3, is accepting checks from his “old-man” to keep the house, car and food on the table.  I’d hire the elder man in a second if I had a position and could pay him! Just his mentorship would probably be of profound value! That’s right! I said:  His knowledge alone would be incredibly valuable!

So, why hire a mature worker to provide your Social Media?  Well, for starters, I think there is an attitude of “propriety” that comes with someone who has more than just graduated from college.  The professionalism and successes the mature crowd brings might be just the right messenger for your particular line of goods as the mouth-piece of your online brand.  More seniors are online than ever before, they are sometimes isolated but still have buying power and some “whipper-snapper” with a catchy phrase that seems disingenuous at best and at worst – downright rude… may be turning away your senior-focused products’ best customers.  Good judgment prevails with the senior crowd. A peer communicating to them, who understands the needs of the age group could be your secret weapon!

What are some of the best resources out there today to assist mature, experienced workers rejoin the workforce doing meaningful and worthwhile work?

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